Ok, so we know that it takes reducing calories to lose weight. In fact, if your only goal is to have the scale change, there is literally nothing that matters as much as calories consumed.
The problem with counting calories is that counting them makes no difference. If you don’t have the skills to effectively change it, it’s like counting the minutes until the Titanic sinks.
Even if we know we’re eating too much, we still don’t have the habits that make it possible to eat less. Almost universally, I find that clients have habits that make them hungrier. If your habits are making you hungry, then counting calories is like being on the Titanic and counting how fast the ship is sinking. You are highly aware of what’s not working, but you aren’t doing anything that will make a difference.